Does anyone have helpful advice or can you recommend a good book for a single mother an who has just started dating again, her only son is eleven years old.
The son hates his mother's new boyfriend and is so angry that she is going out with him that he says he wants to kill him. The son is very emotional about the situation and believes that the only solution is for the dating to stop.
The mother doesn't want to begin behaviours that will encourage the son to think he can control what his mother does and with whom but she doesn't want to get into a power struggle, she wants a win-win situation for her and her son but she doesn't know how to go about it.
Have any of you had experience of a similar situation and how did you deal with it?
Ciao, Ozzzy 
QueeneMab
i don't think a book will help.
I think Mum needs to talk with the lad and find out why he is so angry. It won't be easy.
I suspect the answer will be that he feels this new guy will threaten the close relationship he has with his mum and also that the new relationship underlines the end of Mum's relationship with Dad.
Sometimes kids pick up on weird stuff.
"Do we ever say to kids you are just like your mum/dad."
Fine when mum/dad is doing well but how about when mum/dad is percieved by the child to have failed or be rejected in some way, for example when a divorce happens. How does that make them feel.
Just a hunch, although I could be wrong.
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